Encountering life means encountering people. Encountering people means encountering opinions. And encountering opinions means the decision to follow the opinions or throw them away. Not all opinions are bad, but this post specifically explains about others' opinions which we really don't have to follow. cause sometimes, some people use their opinions to change others instead of encouraging them just to be themselves.
As the author of this blog, it is a privilege of me to write my own experience about this topic. Which is one thing that I hate about my own country. Sometimes I meet those annoying people who happen to push their opinions on one's personal life. Mostly, they talk about the importance of marriage; which by far is the very last thing I'm interested in and I have my own personal reasons for that. So far, the most annoying one came from one seemingly religious married man whom I assume is quite patriarchy as well. I even had every counterarguments for all the arguments he said, like why some people die young if God said that all people must get married. I've also encountered the pushy opinions from what should be my 'closest circle', or at least that's what they claimed it to be even though they're nothing compared to my friends who are open minded and understanding. Those kind of annoying ones had their own opinions on what kind of life I should have, although it's actually none of their business since it's my life, not theirs. At one point, I was really frustrated with those people throwing their opinions to me that I really wanna say "none of your fucking business" to them.
After that very turning point, I decided to try not to give a fuck to whatever they say about my life. Of course it's easier said than done; cause throughout my life, I have a habit of being a good listener whenever I have a conversation with someone. When I listen to people, sometimes I filter them with what I believe in and decipher what they're trying to convey as well as what kind of people they are. Thanks to the same filter, I can stand on my own ground even though I tend to listen first and speak when I'm comfortable or asked. One major drawback that I feel as a listener is the ability to feel whatever they say, which lead to thinking about them. That's why I felt frustrated at first whenever I heard those kinds of opinions.
Bit by bit, I'm gradually learning to filly have no fucks given to any of them. By giving no fucks, I'm learning to handle my life on my own. If I success, it's because of me and for me since I'm the one who do all the deeds. If I fail, I'm the one who's responsible and keep doing what I can because I'm the one who I have in the end. I have the freedom to choose what kind of life I have with the consequences that lie beneath it. And most importantly, I'm letting myself just to be me. I'm freeing myself from worrying about what others think of me, and eventually I feel my soul being more at peace.
Opinions are just opinions. As individuals, we all have the free will to choose what kind of life we want, with the consequences as well. Those pushy people need to learn to appreciate that each individuals are naturally different, so there's no need to push those kinds of opinions and try to control their lives. It's not healthy. By giving zero fucks to those opinions, (or at least having the will to try not to give a slightest fuck), I believe that our personal lives will be more peaceful. Besides, why let others run your life if it's your life in the first place? Our own lives aren't their fucking business anyways.
P.S.: I'm aware that there's a book entitled "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck", which I haven't read by far (maybe later when the time comes). This post has nothing to do with the book in any matter, because I'm writing this with the intention of sharing my thoughts regarding of the matter.
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